Comments on My Journey to Fit: A Forty-Something's Weight Loss Journey: "You Can't Eat That"

1) I read your blog in my reader, so I don't c...

2010-06-17T15:17:35.198-05:00

1) I read your blog in my reader, so I don't come to your actual site very often. So I just noticed - your page is great! I love the pink bike pics.

2) This was a wonderful post. I really appreciate you sharing both stories.

I had a boyfriend once who told me that I was the ...

2010-06-16T10:10:14.776-05:00

I had a boyfriend once who told me that I was the most gorgeous girl ever, if only I had a body to go with it.
Jerk!
However, like you, off came the weight. I think I ended up around 110 at that point.
When he sees me now, he's all friendly and I want to junk punch him.

Being that I follow basically a fat-free vegan die...

2010-06-16T02:14:59.060-05:00

Being that I follow basically a fat-free vegan diet for the most part, I hear that a lot as well. It's irritating. I'm always quick to reply that "I can eat anything I want -- I choose not to eat that, thanks." Usually it's because the people pointing out that I 'can't eat that' are doing it with a bit of a smirk, like I'm missing out on something good.

I am not a fan of the food police either. I really...

2010-06-15T16:42:42.999-05:00

I am not a fan of the food police either. I really don't like it if anyone says to me, "should you be eating that?" AS IF they have some say!

Enjoy your food! Tell them you are an adult, and your mommy doesn't forbid you from eating pies.

TAB, now there's something I haven't thoug...

2010-06-15T12:50:48.049-05:00

TAB, now there's something I haven't thought about in years! I really appreciated hearing about your story as a teen. The teenage years are so hard, why do we put ourselves through so much?

Your friends just sound ignorant. You be sure to set them straight next time!

I think it is good for others to know that if they want to lose weight they don't have to deprive themselves of everything all the time!

When I read this post it almost mirrored every oth...

2010-06-15T11:08:36.114-05:00

When I read this post it almost mirrored every other eating disordered person I've ever known.

Some of the food blogs I read on a regular basis (including yours!) are trying to enjoy food, not being so strict and having a good relationship with food.

One of the girls blogs I read said it was only one sentence from a mere acquaintance that pushed her into ED.

She had a sister that was a bit chubby, Sophia never thought about food other than to enjoy it. This acquaintance said "your lucky you aren't fat like your sister."

She said she only ever saw this guy once more in the next six years, but something switched in her brain and she did whatever she could do not to get fat.

It's all so sad, but I love that you now will eat that cake if you want it! You've come such a long way Shelley - so proud of you!

I have one guy 'friend' who sometimes comm...

2010-06-14T22:55:35.429-05:00

I have one guy 'friend' who sometimes comments on my curves..my last response to him was "it's none of your concern since you're never going to see me naked" ..lol.

82lbs was too too small- do not ever let someone influence you like that again. Hopefully your stronger now.
I've kicked guys to the curb for saying things about my weight or critiquing me in any way. They say I'm too sensitive, I tell them they lack a sensitivity button and Bye-bye.
Be good with you and the world will be good with you too :)

Down to 82 pounds! That's something! You must...

2010-06-14T22:07:09.917-05:00

Down to 82 pounds! That's something! You must have been absolutely starving and twig-thin.

So much better for you now, with everything that you know and do to be healthy. You are very inspiring.

Wow, what a story! (About the 82 pounds). I was a...

2010-06-14T20:28:01.761-05:00

Wow, what a story! (About the 82 pounds). I was anorexic too but never got below 107 or so (at 5'8"). I was younger and it was a bit of a control thing with my folks, plus that late-70s super-thin thing. I'm so glad you lost the bozo. 82 pounds is flirting with disaster.

What a fabulous post. Isn't it kookie how an e...

2010-06-14T19:13:03.875-05:00

What a fabulous post. Isn't it kookie how an event can take you way back in time in the blink of a word, a thoughtless, annoying word.

Quick question, have you tried Tab recently? I had one a couple years ago and they redid the recipe. It's actually pretty damn tasty now!

Anyway, thanks for the Sister Powah moment. Feelin empowered and ready to fight another day! Thanks!

THAT was very intense. I want to ring that old boy...

2010-06-14T18:40:54.210-05:00

THAT was very intense. I want to ring that old boyfriend's throat! I am really amazed by your very consistent eating habits. I am truly inspired.
Rock on, healthy chic!

The fact that one adult would tell another adult w...

2010-06-14T18:06:55.522-05:00

The fact that one adult would tell another adult what they can't eat is disturbing to me.

I too was a teenage idiot,in terms of boy-pleasing...

2010-06-14T16:23:00.067-05:00

I too was a teenage idiot,in terms of boy-pleasing. I teach teenage girls now and I think that some of them do have much better attitudes: they really do love themselves, in a good way, and don't take that much notice of what the boys say. But of course there are some who I see fading away week by week, thinking they're looking better and better - and setting themselves up for a lifetime of disordered relationships with food. Hard to watch.

Wow, Shelley. 82 pounds. Yikes, I guess I'm ...

2010-06-14T14:18:33.598-05:00

Wow, Shelley. 82 pounds. Yikes, I guess I'm glad I didn't have a boyfriend in high school. Yes, I like it when I plan for a special treat. I still don't like it so much when I just eat stuff 'cause its there.' Good post.

This made me kind of sad to read. The things we do...

2010-06-14T13:27:11.467-05:00

This made me kind of sad to read. The things we do for love, don't we. He almost got you anorexic (think I spelled that wrong) but I can understand why it happened. We always want to please others.

And next time damnit: you take that pie! You've earned it, you deserve it and you will enjoy it!

About my hills run in November: ask me again after it if I'm still alive :lol: Where I live it's flat too so I'm not used to hills AT ALL :)

First of all, I think we are on the same page toda...

2010-06-14T12:26:41.692-05:00

First of all, I think we are on the same page today. I went to Santa Cruz yesterday and wrote about it the commute from Santa Clara. Secondly, I totally remember that Togo's. It is a Mexican food restaurant now.

82 lbs! That is what my friends 8 year old niece weighs and she is tall and thin. Crazy some of the things we did as teens. Glad those years are far behind me.

Great post! It's so scary what teenagers (and...

2010-06-14T11:43:04.809-05:00

Great post! It's so scary what teenagers (and even some adults) do for the acceptance of others. It's good that you have learned to be a healthy eater.

My mom had the Fresca and Ayds candies back in the...

2010-06-14T10:37:33.100-05:00

My mom had the Fresca and Ayds candies back in the day. Yuck.

Boy, this post hit a nerve with me. Back when I was 150ish, I'd have people come up to me at work and say stupid crap like that to me too. I felt unworthy of being able to eat and felt like they must've thought I was a fat cow. I thought I was.
Although no one's said anything like that to me in years, I still sometimes hear those voices in my head when I'm eating at work.
If anyone decides to be the food monitor with me today, they'll know pretty quickly that they can stop. :D

I am constantly amazed by what a healthy relations...

2010-06-14T10:01:44.741-05:00

I am constantly amazed by what a healthy relationship you have with food! I still struggle daily and I hope to get to where you are at some point!

Gah, people are so annoying. Side note on the TAB...

2010-06-14T09:56:13.807-05:00

Gah, people are so annoying.

Side note on the TAB thing - my mom was ADDICTED to that stuff when I was growing up - she'd plow through a couple 12 packs a week!

My mother lived on TAB too. I can remember them. ...

2010-06-14T09:41:18.571-05:00

My mother lived on TAB too. I can remember them. They tasted alright to me at the time. Of course, what else was there. WATER?? Oh yea.

I am realizing that allowing yourself to eat what you what, but not as much as you want, gives me so much freedom.

Great post!

Wow, Shelley, good thing you finally broke up with...

2010-06-14T09:36:59.185-05:00

Wow, Shelley, good thing you finally broke up with Jon. I couldn't help but think of how HE might look at a reunion today...

Interesting that you could easily pass on the desserts too. If I am going to splurge on one like that now, it had BETTER be worth it. I'm not going to eat banana cream or cheesecake (don't like) or something else so so, like an inferior browniejust to be polite! [I love brownies, but it has to be a quality one, not dry, ya know!] It needs to be a must have, like you say.

I guess they were saying that by way of explaining to themselves why you had coffee only. A light, smiley response like, "Sure I can, just chose not to" might work, but-you owe no explanation, either. Silence is ok too.

Happy week, Chrissy

And why would anyone presume to even comment on th...

2010-06-14T09:32:06.558-05:00

And why would anyone presume to even comment on that? THat's what I don't get. How rude.

Shelley- Your blog caught my eye when I was brows...

2010-06-14T09:25:34.099-05:00

Shelley- Your blog caught my eye when I was browsing, since I have been writing about my weight struggles as well. But today's post had me laughing! I grew up in San Jose, and made the trip "over the hill" more often than we should have! We would cut school and go to Togo's there on that little corner in Santa Cruz, and then head down to the beach. Oh, the memories! Back then, I didn't worry about the weight, although I was probably 160 at the time. Turkey and Avocado... Mmm. :-) These days, I'd share one with you. They're just too big to eat alone!

I used to be an assistant manager for a Togo's...

2010-06-14T07:56:32.014-05:00

I used to be an assistant manager for a Togo's. #9 pastrami please...

It's so annoying that people make such assumptions. It's either "should you eat that" "Can you eat that" "You can't have that".

Can you win?? I certainly would have said something, but that's me. If enough people say something to me, it usually comes out snarky like "Why is what is or is not on my plate of concern to you?".

Or "I already had 3 big slices and I'm full, thank you".

You are nicer than I am LOL!